□ Square
Ascendant square Descendant
The square between the Ascendant and Descendant puts tension on the axis that unites self-affirmation with surrender to the bond and to the other. Since both points are naturally opposite, this friction angle tends to express itself through a third factor that activates the dilemma between individuality and relationship. Personal presence and the willingness to bond pull in directions that are hard to reconcile. The work is finding the balance between being oneself and opening up to the encounter.
In a relationship
Between two people, this contact activates the perennial tension between asserting oneself and surrendering, between the I and the we. One may feel that in order to sustain their identity they must cede ground in the relationship, or conversely, that bonding costs them their own presence. There is a fertile dilemma there, the same one every couple faces between autonomy and commitment, but here it is lived with particular clarity. It creates tension because the needs for personal space and closeness seem to clash, generating a back-and-forth between drawing near and pulling back. It gives, however, the opportunity to learn the most difficult art of the bond: being together without disappearing. The work it asks for is negotiating the boundaries between what is one's own and what is shared without one canceling the other. It helps to recognize that both poles are legitimate and necessary. Worked with awareness, this square teaches how to hold a strong individuality within an equally strong union.
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